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I'm in need of some advice. Me and this girl have been friends for a while, and I've been wanting to invite her to the movies or something. Now, I have no intention of making a "date", but when I ask my friends for help, they insist that i am looking for a date. The thing is, whenever I try to invite her somewhere, she will wither stop talking or change subject. So, am asking why she would do this, and how to ask her over. :help:
Northernguy
03-25-2010, 03:49 AM
Talking has always been the best way to go about things.
Just ask her?
I'd just ask her if she wanted to go see a movie...straight out...
Worst she can say is 'no'...
Northernguy
03-25-2010, 04:54 AM
I'd just ask her if she wanted to go see a movie...straight out...
Worst she can say is 'no'...
Wrong! lol She could say yes and mention a chick flick she has been wanting to see!
You will never know if you do not try.
MrRobarto
03-25-2010, 07:09 AM
Too be totally honest with you if you have tried before to ask her out (in a roundabout sort of way) and she changes the subject she simply isn't interested. If you think its worth the risk of possibly scaring her off as a friend I say go for it and just straight out ask!
jackson17
03-25-2010, 11:25 AM
Get a couple friends (guys) and make sure they are on the same page as you, then ask if her and her friends want to see _______ movie with you AND your friends. (Try to make it something both will enjoy...comedy? lol) And then ask. Usually if she has some back up (friends) she won't take it as a ''date'' but you will get to hang out. Or maybe try just having you, your friends, her and her friends over your house or somewhere.
Usually it wont be as ''date''-like if your just at a house chilling with a big group of people.
I sound like hitch :spam:
Lady Hobbs
03-25-2010, 12:20 PM
Too be totally honest with you if you have tried before to ask her out (in a roundabout sort of way) and she changes the subject she simply isn't interested. If you think its worth the risk of possibly scaring her off as a friend I say go for it and just straight out ask!
I so agree. The signals she is sending you should be rather obvious. If she was interested she would be making it more apparent, not walking away or changing the subject.
Scrup
03-25-2010, 02:37 PM
ask her if she wants to go to the fish auction on saturday. tell her you know this awesome guy who will be there.:hmm3grin2orange:
HeatherH
03-25-2010, 04:30 PM
Ask her to go see New Moon. I assume she's younger,then when she cries and screams and giggles looking at Edward Cullen you can cash in by lending a shoulder or hold her hand as she anticipates Edward shirtless shots.
(Sorry I just watched this movie yesterday and it really gave me a good laugh-I'm old tho! :hmm3grin2orange: )
tanks4thememories
03-25-2010, 04:53 PM
I so agree. The signals she is sending you should be rather obvious. If she was interested she would be making it more apparent, not walking away or changing the subject.
I agree. Some people believe the guy chooses the girl. In most cases the girl has seen the guy long before he has approached her and decided if she would let him choose her or not (more than friends/Just friends)...lol As the saying goes "First impression is the lasting impression", so although it is very easy to make someone who finds you attractive suddenly feel the opposite..lol, it is very difficult to change someones feelings towards you who doesn't already see you as more than just a friend. Our job as a guys (as difficult as it may be:hmm3grin2orange: ) is to just be ourselves and find the one that we like, that is sending out the signals for "Green Light"(Likes us back):l19: and ask her out. (Learn to find and choose from those who have already chosen you).
Just my Opinion, that and a buss pas will get ya on the bus...lol Good Luck tiger!!
the intention is NOT a date, simply inviting her over.
jackson17
03-25-2010, 10:30 PM
Then tell her that. Be like I just want to hang as friends.
MCHRKiller
03-25-2010, 11:58 PM
Nothing wrong with two friends seeing a movie, most of my friends are male...and we hang out all the time and have since we were teens. Just treat her like you would any friend, if you want to see a movie or whatever just ask her if shed like to go with you as friends nothing more. Getting that whole aspect of it might being a date out of the way from the start will make you both more comfortable. :22:
tanks4thememories
03-26-2010, 02:24 AM
the intention is NOT a date, simply inviting her over.
Ahh I understand. I assumed from your friends opinion:
Now, I have no intention of making a "date", but when I ask my friends for help, they insist that i am looking for a date.
and her subtile signs
The thing is, whenever I try to invite her somewhere, she will wither stop talking or change subject.
It appears that everyone but you feels this would be a date. So 1st of all you might want to consider what signals these other people are picking up on to make them feel as they do. Only you know in your heart if it is or is not so, and you must be honest with yourself on this matter. It really doesn't matter what your friends or us in this forum think. It only matters what is truly in your heart, and what is in hers. So whatever it is that you wish for between yourself and this girl it is best that you express it to her (in a calm simple fashion), then let the chips fall where they may. Whatever the outcome you will feel better in the long run cause it will be in the open and decided. As several people have mentioned already just tell her whats on your mind if she is truly "Friend" material she will let you know and if she isn't she will let you know as well..."The illusion of possibilities is never better than the possibilities of reality" - Tanks4thememories 1979:hmm3grin2orange:
Thanks for your help everyone! Were going to the mall tomarrow! thumbs2:
tanks4thememories
03-27-2010, 11:58 PM
Thanks for your help everyone! Were going to the mall tomarrow! thumbs2:
..........:22:
Too be totally honest with you if you have tried before to ask her out (in a roundabout sort of way) and she changes the subject she simply isn't interested. If you think its worth the risk of possibly scaring her off as a friend I say go for it and just straight out ask!
If I've learned anything in my life being fat and ugly, I have learned that if a woman REALLY wants to be wqith you, she will find a way!!!!! If you have already tried to ask her and she changes the subject, she is NOT NOT NOT interested! Move on because she's not worth your time.
Trust me on this one.
(Edit). I was talking about ME re fat and ugly....
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