Loss of a Very good Friend!!

[AquaQueen]

well I've been pretty down, these last few days. Hubby and I lost one of our best friends Saturday he was only 22 and to top it off it was on his birthday. He was involed in a high speed chase with the cops and hit a telphone poll the car split in three peices the motor ended up a 100 feet away, it was horiable. We went to his wake yesterday and it was a closed casket. Which was so hard for everyone to say their goodbyes. It so sux man we was just with him the other day laughing and having a great time. I dont know how to tell my kids cause they loved him like an uncle but they will be asking soon where he is so I have to tell them some how and in the right words. The last time I had to do that was when my brother died pretty much the same way without the cops chasing him..speeding was the reason and it wasn't easy for me to handle let alone trying to help my family anyways Im sorry about puting this in ur forum and bringing my sadness but I needed let some feelings out in some way. well im gonna go rest my mind..if that is possible. Take it easy every one and remember enjoy life cause it could end in a blink of an eye!

I migh not be arround much if his family needs us we are going to be there for them. Our friend also left behind a 2 1/2 yr old son..poor lil guy is gonna grow up with no Daddy now. ONLY THE GOOD DIE YOUNG

[Lindsay_D]

I'm sorry for your loss. I lost my mom and my dad when i was younger. If you need a shoulder that is through a monitor I'm here for you.

[kimmers318]

So sorry to hear about the senseless death of someone so young. His child is lucky to have people like you around to help in the future.

[Nautilus29]

sorry to hear about your loss.

[cocoa_pleco]

ouch- sorry

Ive lost alot of people, my grandfather in '86, my teacher in 5th grade

[Lady Hobbs]

I am sooo sorry Bonnie. Such a waste of a young persons life.

[Chrona]

You have my condolences :(

[jeffs99dime]

sorry for your loss!

[Severus]

Im sorry to hear that! That is a real shame

[AquaQueen]

Well I must say you guys are so great, Thank you ALL for your support. I kinda needed to hear some kind words and I know ya'll always seem to give them at the right times, So again, Thank You EVERYONE! I am finding it hard to even be at work without my mind wondering and thinking about how everything happened. I think the worst part is the fact that my ONLY Big Brother died the same way only 5 yrs ago this March 25th, so it makes things that much harder, yanno. I really find it harder when it is unexpected, I think it would be easier if we could see them and say goodbye before they are GONE forever.

Well I have to get ready to go back to work for a few hours then come back and cook some of my "Famous" Homemade Chicken fingers for dinner...MmMmM Talk to ya'll Later. Be Safe everyone:1luvu:

[Abbeys_Mom]

My smiley says it all.
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[Incredulous_Ed]

Really sorry to hear that :(

[crackatinny]

Sorry to hear of your loss, losing someone so close makes you realise just how important life is.

[DemonShark]

I'm sorry to hear of your lost of a good friend. I hope things turn out to the better and you get on your feet again! Ill pray for you and your family and his family to and I hope that It will go fast for you so you don't have to wallow in sorrow.
Best Wishes
Alexander

[AquaQueen]

Thanks alot guys.

[cocoa_pleco]

to lighten things up- nice new avatar:ezpi_wink1:

[fishlips28]

Sorry about your friend. I know that it can be hard to lose someone close to you! Hope you are feeling better!

[Severus]

Where are you getting those avatars. They are hilarious!

[f1oored]

Sorry to hear of your loss Bonnie. My prayers are with you. I know what it's like to lose an older brother and can't even imagine losing a close friend in the same fashion in such a short period of time. Be strong for your kids and your friends family.

[Sin]

hi PAQ , sorry to hear of the bad news , death is never an easy thing to come to grips with , weather its a person close friend or an animal we have raised , once its gone we are left here to ponder why or how or the whatif's if i did something differently maybe it wouldnt have happened or things might have happened that way that person would still be here or whathaveyou.....then reality sets in
as much as we love to be in control , we realize we dont have as much control as we like to think we do , life is a great thing of awsome beauty , making some stand 10 feet tall full of pride , but death can bring us to our knees...its a wake up call that we are not indistructable , i do realize alot of times we take alot of things for granted , but death puts things into perspective what life couldnt show , of what we may not know , only to find out later or to realize , like a puzzle things start fitting into place. i dont know whats harder for someone to pass away and rest in peace , or for the loved one to still carry on with life living with anothers death...one thing is for sure , neither are simple things to be.... i have lost many loved ones throughout the years and it is never an easy concept...just like you i had a friend that i joked around with and had a good time with and next time around i heard he passed away , i went to his wake and paid my respects and such , but its like just with a blink of an eye life can be taken away.....makes you wonder.....personally i believe certain people in this world are just not ment to live a long life ...atleast not in this world , they are much more needed elsewhere and their time was up....now accidents do happen and some deaths can be explained in that fashion , but you have to believe also that there is a higher force behind the " machanics" of it all , some things are just ment to be and theres nothing much we can do to stop it...its sad only because we feel the loss...but life is full of lessons to be learned...and so is death , they both go hand in hand.
i wish you the best and god bless

[AquaQueen]

to lighten things up- nice new avatar:ezpi_wink1:

Thanks Cocoa_Pleco...I had to do something to keep my mind off things last night so I searched for funny avatars...with some luck found a few cute ones.

[AquaQueen]

Where are you getting those avatars. They are hilarious!

I just did a google search for funny avatars and found a whole bunch of sites with them.

[AquaQueen]

Sin,
I have to let you know that those are some of the nicest things someone can say to anyone after loosing a loved one. Thank You. I now feel like today will be a great day. I am going to just remember My friend how he was and not how he died. I think that will help. I have not told my children yet I think I may hold out as long as I can.

Thanks for all of this wonderful support everyone you all are such great people and I feel so blessed to have people like you as a part of my life. Thank you for just being my online "family" Be Safe Everyone!!! Talk to ya'll later after my morning run.

[Severus]

I just did a google search for funny avatars and found a whole bunch of sites with them.

haha, i get all mine off of google as well.

[AquaQueen]

I love to Google everything..lol

[Severus]

haha, it does turn up some great results!

[crackatinny]

Mate, when I lost my brother, I thought the world had crumbled around me, I had also lost my mum, 10 yrs before and my muminlaw, 2 yrs before, then 2 yrs ago, I lost Dad, I know nothing anyone says can take away that pain, when I lost one of my best mates in 95, his parents could not afford the extra $300 the council wanted to fill in his grave, at the end of the service, his brotherinlaw came around and asked a few of his closest mates if they would mind doing one last favour for our mate, and fill his grave, let me tell you, that was one of the hardest things I have ever done, I came home and said to the wife, I could never do that again, and layed on the louge and cried myself to sleep.

This thread you have opened is a great idea, keeping things bottled up is bad, just remember, you have many friends on here, and a lot will know what you are going through.

Keep your chin up, and try to remember the good times, (I know they make you cry, but that is what you need right now)

Best wishes
CRACK